Can We Be Friends?

Me and my bff, Kara

I just looked at the last time I blogged, and was shocked that it was in September! Then I thought about it and realized “…yeah….that’s about right…” I didn’t disappear because I ran out of things to say, (that could never happen) but because I have been hunkered down researching and writing a book.

Way back in the Spring, I said to an editor I met that I’d like to someday write a book about the modern epidemic of loneliness and going in search of your people. She took me up on it and asked for a formal book pitch (which is a lot of writing for a book that may or may not happen.) It took months of refining what I wanted to write about and what they wanted to pay me to write about, but by mid-summer we had come up with something we thought people might actually want to read.

And I researched. Because that’s the kind of girl I am.

I read sociological, psychological, and anthropological studies on why people are reporting loneliness in epidemic numbers and how to create a tribe of people to fight off the lonely. I read Ph D papers, and all kinds of studies. I had gone into this whole thing thinking “it’s probably the social media,” and came out of it knowing that social media is a part of the problem, but also a part of the solution, and that it’s so much more complicated than just Facebook or Twitter. It’s the way we live, but it’s not a hopeless thing. Loneliness can be fought and defeated!

Armed with that information, I sat down in mid-October to begin laying out what this book would look like once it was on paper, and began writing around Halloween. On New Year’s Day, I sent in the last rough chapter to the editor and she sent the first chapters with notes and corrections back to me.

A bit ago, Our Sunday Visitor started taking pre-orders which is crazy exciting, and I added working on a talk on the subject to my to-do list. I’ve already been asked to speak at three events this Spring about friendship and loneliness, and am talking to a few more for this Summer and Fall. If you’d like to have me come out and speak with your group, I’d be happy to discuss it with you. If you’d like to pre-order my new book “Can We Be Friends?” my publisher would be happy to let you.

I’m going to try to blog a bit more this year, because I miss the community of writers and readers on the internet, and because I still have a bit more to say.

About Rebecca Frech

Rebecca Frech is a Catholic author, speaker, CrossFit coach, and the Managing Editor of The Catholic Conspiracy website. She is the author of the best-selling books Teaching in Your Tiara: A Homeschooling Book for the Rest of Us and Can We Be Friends? She is a co-host of the popular podcast The Visitation Project, and is a columnist for The National Catholic Register. She and her husband live just outside Dallas with their eight children, a German Shepherd named Dave, and an ever-multiplying family of dust-bunnies.
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4 Responses to Can We Be Friends?

  1. Tara Markus says:

    Yay!!! Glad you’re back’ish! Love the pic, your BFF is the best! Looking forward to the book, I enjoy your writing so much. 😆

  2. Vanessa says:

    Nice to see you! I’ve missed you!

    How exciting about your book, congratulations! 🙂

  3. Rosemary says:

    Congratulations! What a great subject!

    How do we pre-order? What is the process?

  4. Kathleen says:

    I’m looking forward to hearing what you say about this! I’ve found it to be a challenge in our (mutual) area. People want friendship, but they don’t want to do what can be necessary to develop friends!

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